so this cracked article: http://www.cracked.com/article_20584_the-5-most-absurdly-offensive-theme-weddings-ever-planned.html brought on a heated debate in the comment section on whether or not these entries are offensive. Here is my take on it:
Just because you don’t find it offensive, does not mean it’s not offensive to other people. Conversely, the argument: “just because some people find it offensive, does not mean it’s offensive, grow up and stop being sensitive!” contradicts it self. Youre basically saying “Im not taking the offended party into account because i think they dont have a high tolerance like me.” Its generally agreed that if a large population find something offensive, then it is offensive, and clearly, a large part of the comment section finds these entries offensive.
And I’m sure the majority of the people who’re actually part of the cultures being bastardized in these entries wouldn’t be too happy either. Dont you think Jewish people would be offended if they see these over-privileged and desensitized kids wear the uniform of the people that once massacred 6 million Jews just because they think the uniform looks cool?
Wouldnt Native Americans be offended by how these people turned 600 different, diverse native american cultures into a stereotype of: “a lot of feather, leather, fur and spears” while the modern Native American culture is being marginalized, with the tribal lands in the U.S becoming a very dangerous place (one of the highest female rape percentage of any ethnicity in the US) partly due to these stereotypes? Im not even gonna include the fact that these people might be descended from the same people who stole the native’s land and killing so many of them.
The same goes for the rest of these entries. Im asian and I’d be offended as hell if people have a internment camp style wedding just because they like the architecture of an internment camp or a post-nuke-Hiroshima style wedding. Wouldn’t many Americans be offended if some where, people have a 9/11 themed wedding? At the same time, some people might go “urg stop being sensitive America!” but they didn’t lose friends and family in that tragedy so they wouldn’t understand.
Many people also don’t seem to understand that the threshold for pain and anger and sadness is different for different human beings, and different depending on the situations as well. One thing that may not hurt one person might hurt a lot for others. Some people call kids who commit suicide after being bullied “pussies” because they couldn’t stand up for themselves, but these people just have a stronger ability to take abuse than the kids. They might never have even have suffered from bullying.
I don’t think we have as much of a right to judge whether or not these weddings are offensive as those who actually are being affected by them. However, we could still try to empathize and have a personal, subjective, view point of whether it is offensive to us by putting ourselves in their shoes. Just saying “urg I don’t find it this offensive, people are so overly-sensitive” is almost ignorance because to you, these might not be offensive, but to people who are actually being affected by these bastardizations of their culture, it might be.